Mormon Church Changes Its Policy toward Gays, But Not Enough

The Mormon Church took an unprecedented step toward accepting gay people recently and though it is a positive move, it does not go far enough.

The church opened a website: , which seems to be an attempt to reach out to Mormon gays and the gay community at large. The website’s official statement states:

“The experience of same-sex attraction is a complex reality for many people. The attraction itself is not a sin, but acting on it is. Even though individuals do not choose to have such attractions, they do choose how to respond to them. With love and understanding, the Church reaches out to all God’s children, including our gay and lesbian brothers and sisters.”

I am glad that the Mormon Church has accepted the fact that gay people are born the way they are, which is a step in the right direction.  What they do not seem to grasp, the same as Evangelicals and even Catholics do not grasp, is that gay people are not going to choose to live a life of celibacy because of whom they are.

Let me point something else out to all those religious people who have condemned LGBT people for a long time; having sex outside of marriage is a sin, no matter if it is heterosexual or homosexual. If The Mormon church wants to say that being gay is not a sin but acting on one’s own natural sexual desire is a sin, then they should make it clear that it is also just as sinful for heterosexuals to act on their desire, outside of marriage.

The question that Mormons and other religious people need to ask themselves, once they wake up to the fact that being gay is more than just a lifestyle, is should everyone, including gay people, have a right to pursue their dreams and fall in love and enjoy the same rights and privileges as all their fellow American citizens? In other words, can they accept that even though they may never spiritually approve of our gayness, they can at least afford us the same rights every citizen supposed to have? Can they stand down from defending laws that ban LGBT from enjoying the same rights as they enjoy, which means allowing us to marry, if we so choose?

As a gay man, I have spent my life watching straight people get married and raise families. It was as though the American dream was only for them and somehow I had to be excluded because I was born, attracted to those of my own sex. Fortunately, for some of my gay brothers and sisters who valiantly stood up to the police one night at the Stonewall Inn, which eventually led to the freedoms and even acceptance of gay people in today’s society, gay people can now marry in several states and the numbers continue to grow.

Gay people do not expect churches to open their door to same-sex weddings nor do we think ministers should be sued because they refuse to marry a gay couple over their own moral beliefs. We do expect to be given the same rights as everyone else and the only ministers we want to marry us are those who also accept our marriage for what it is: a commitment between two people to spend the rest of their lives with each other, even under God.

Acceptance is wonderful as long as it does not have exceptions such as; you can be gay because you were born that way, but you really are not allowed to be gay, because that’s a sin. Isn’t that what the Mormon Church is now saying to the gay community?

The answer to the gay problem for the Mormons and all those who seek to block same-sex marriage in the states is; stop trying to block us. Give us, your fellow American citizens, the same right as every American and that is to pursue our dreams and find love in our lives. You may never approve of our sexuality as religious people but we hope you approve of our love as humans, even to each other.

2 Responses to Mormon Church Changes Its Policy toward Gays, But Not Enough

  1. avatar J.R. LeMar says:

    Well, I’m pretty sure the Mormon church is against heterosexual sex outside of marriage. That’s why so many get married young (& have a bunch of kids). While I agree that this is a small step, it’s still a step in the right direction.

    • avatar fidlerten says:


      You’re right, it’s a small step and it’s certainly better than their previous stand, which was to actively support banning gay marriage and gay rights altogether.

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